This last weekend my brother-in-law invited our family down to Crystal Lake in Keystone Heights to spend the day at the lake house to do some fishing and boating. I told my wife that I really wanted to spend most of Saturday working out of my home office because the market is tight and competition is tough. You have to work twice as hard in order to get the same result in this marketplace.
Well, Saturday morning my wife broke it to the kids that I wasn’t going to the lake house with them.
Pure disappointment.
My wife told the kids, "Go, say bye to your Father and don’t make him feel bad because he needs to work." The kids came into my office holding back the tears not saying a word and they both gave me a hug. My heart broke. I told my son, Jordan…."Do you want daddy to go with you?" He nodded his head yes.
I said "Ok, daddy will go."
Meanwhile, inside I was thinking, "What did you just say? What are you thinking? Now, is no time for fun but for hard work and providing for your family. "
About then Jordan looks up at me and says (like only a 4yr. old boy can):
"Daddy, you don’t care about not having any money?…..no, I know what you care about daddy, but I don’t want to say." He started to walk out of the room.
I told him to come back in here and tell me what he was going to say and he said, "You care more about us , Daddy."
I was stunned. What a big decision I just made without even realizing it. My kids don’t always see my hard work as a language of love. They spell love differently. They spell it T-I-M-E. I had the best Saturday that I had in a long while enjoying time with my kids and those I love.
So, you know what I say to the recession? This too shall pass…..but family memories will last forever.
Spend time with those you love it will make the current struggle all that more bearable.
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I love you Jonathan! Thanks for all your hard work…it’s not unnoticed. But more than that thanks for loving us and showing it.
Me
Wow! you don’t realize how the little decisions make such a difference.
Thanks for the life lesson. I needed that today! Sometimes we have to say, “No” to things that in the moment we think matter so we can say, “Yes” to what really matters most. Thanks big bro.
Wow, great story! I have a four year old who has soccer practice tonight, which I usually miss because I’m working. I think I’ll leave on time tonight and surprise her at practice.
Great idea Carl! They definitely remember when you do things like that! My motto: “Accumulate Memories, not Possessions.”
GREAT POST!!! Tonight my 3yo came into my office and told me she wanted to go swimming… I turned off the computer and did as I was told.
Thanks for the positive perspective.
Phil
That is awesome Phil! Great choice. It is a touch choice sometimes but there are huge payoffs…